Cheating is cheating!
In 2015, a website that promoted extramarital affairs—Ashley Madison—was hacked. The hackers put the site’s users’ data online for friends, family, and strangers to uncover. The breach of trust destroyed marriages and broke one of the commandments: Thou shall not commit adultery, the physical act of cheating, which takes a lot to move forward with.
Not all Ashley Madison users slept with another person. Many men said they merely entertained the idea. But have you ever thought about the fact that there are several ways to cheat on your wife that don’t involve sex? Here are 3 ways you might be cheating on your wife without realizing it.
You cheat on her with your time.
“Never give the time that belongs to God or your wife away to others or other endeavors.”
You cheat on her with inappropriate friendships.
The Greeks held friendships in the highest esteem and called friendship philia. This form of love was seen as even higher than eros, romantic love. If your wife is not your best friend, you may run into some danger here. There are inappropriate friendships when married. If your defenses are down, one vulnerable moment with a female colleague at a work conference can cloud your judgment. Make your wife your best friend and tell her everything. That’s what marriage is anyway—healthy communication with a best friend.
You cheat on her with your energy.
Even more valuable than your time is your energy. Who gets to see your best self? Is it your teammates on the field? The executives around that table at work? Or is it the person with whom you are spending the rest of your life? Energy is physical, mental, and even sexual. Masturbation, pornography, or merely perusing sites like Ashley Madison seem harmless, but they rob your wife of your sexual energy. That energy keeps the flame of eros alive and reaffirms the bonds of philia within your marriage.
One of the easiest ways to describe neglect in a relationship is that it occurs when one partner, or perhaps both people in a relationship, stop putting forth effort.
Unfortunately, being neglected can lead to anxiety, and when a woman feels like this, she is likely to blame herself.
She may think that she is the reason her partner is neglecting her, and she will make great efforts to try to fix the situation. This is incredibly painful for a woman to endure.
Eventually, being neglected in a relationship can lead a woman to pull away from her partner, and in some cases, end the relationship completely.
It can happen when people in a relationship stop making time for each other other or simply don’t seem to be nurturing the relationship.
For instance, if your wife feels neglected, it may be because you’re spending plenty of time golfing with the guys during the weekends, but you can’t make time for a date night. When a wife feels neglected, or a woman begins to think, “My boyfriend neglects me,” she is very much likely to show some signs in reaction to her sadness.
