She Wants to Live With You: 7 Telltale Signs

It’s the only way to clear things up and bring them out in the open. If you’re looking for signs before you initiate that conversation, here’s what you’ll look for.

1. She Keeps Leaving More Possessions at Your Place

Her toothbrush is likely spooning yours or lined up right beside it like it belongs there. In fact, she keeps leaving so many possessions at your place that it’s like her stuff lives there even if she doesn’t (yet).

She might have things hanging in your closet, makeup on your counter, or food in your kitchen. Take a look around your place. How many items of hers can you spot?

She might be leaving a few things around out of convenience. It doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s trying to low-key move in with you.

However, if you’re noticing more of her things living at your home, you might want to talk about it — especially if you don’t want to share space or to keep her possessions in your home. It’s perfectly natural for a partner to keep a few things around, but if she’s slowly taking over the rooms of your house, you have the right to say that you’re not comfortable with that.

2. She Mentions Her Lease is Nearly Up

A pretty significant clue that she wants to move in with you happens when she either complains about a landlord or mentions her lease is nearly up. She might even complain about the cost of rent.

If she’s drawing attention to her living situation being unstable, she might be looking for an opportunity to share space with you.

If she’s looking at new apartment or house listings, this might not be a hint she wants to move in with you. She might just be sharing what’s happening in her life.

But if she comes out and says that the two of you could just live together since she’s over there all the time anyway, this isn’t as much a clue as an obvious indicator that she’s ready. Are you?

3. She Talks About the Convenience of Joint Finances

It’s also possible that she’ll lead into the conversation with a mention of how sharing the rent and joining finances could help you both out. In a recession, shared rent may sound ideal, but is your relationship ready for that step?

Mentioning joined finances is certainly a hint that she’s ready to move in with you.

It’s possible she goes beyond mentioning rent and talks about sharing utilities, streaming services, and more.

She might have more groceries at your place than she buys for her own. If she’s interested in combining your finances, she might be ready to move in with you.

4. She Spends More Time at Your Place Than Her Own

You might already feel like you have a roommate when she spends more time at your place than her own. This is another key sign that she wants to move in with you.

Maybe your home is more comfortable or convenient, but it’s going to make you wonder when she never seems to want to go home.

Most of us like the comfort of our own places. I know I do. If she’s at your place more than her own, it does show she’s comfortable in your space, which is a good sign.

But she might just be comfortable enough that she’d like to move in, which is going to require your consent.

5. She Mentions Redecorating Your Home

Another sign that she wants to move in with you is when she talks about redecorating your home. This isn’t something a visitor generally does unless they have poor boundaries.

If she’s commenting on what she would do differently to enhance your space, she might be thinking about what it would be like to live with you.

She could be envisioning herself in your home and noting how she’d make herself more comfortable in it. If she just loves to organize and decorate, it might not mean she wants to move in.

She just might be trying to help you out. But if you’re concerned she’s hinting about packing her bags and moving in with you, it’s okay to initiate that conversation to see if you could be misunderstanding.

6. She Points Out Friends who Happily Cohabitate

A sign that she thinks is subtle happens when she points out people who happily cohabitate. If she really hypes up their joy, she might think she’s being subtle, but this couldn’t be more obvious.

She wants you to see the possible parallels. It’s a positive sign that she’s considering cohabitation when she starts noticing the couples who live together and love it.

At the same time, if she’s observing all the couples who live together and hate it, that’s a sign that she likely has strong reservations about living together and what it might do to your relationship.

Talking out your thoughts on cohabitation could be helpful to gauge how you both feel about it.

7. She Talks More About Sharing Your Daily Life

It’s natural that she might want to share more of your daily life. If she mentions wanting to be a part of your daily routine like regularly waking up together or sharing dinner after a long day, it’s likely that she wants to move in with you.