To resolve a karmic relationship, you have to be accountable. It requires self-awareness, but that is only a step along the journey and not a destination. You also have to put in the work to heal the issues underlying your choices. Here are a few ways to start resolving your karmic relationships:
- Go to trauma therapy. Note: I didn’t say talk therapy. While talk therapy has many benefits, if you’re in a karmic relationship pattern, I’d hazard a guess that you need the more intensive benefits that come with trauma therapies like EMDR.
- Stop making excuses. Stop excusing yourself for ignoring red flags, and stop excusing your partner’s behavior. Begin holding yourself and your partner accountable for what you both say and do. You can’t make them change, but you can absolutely begin to change your own responses to what’s happening.
- Evaluate your choices. You may genuinely have no idea how you keep picking the same type of person no matter how different they seem on the surface. You’ll need to begin evaluating what attracted you to each person in the pattern. You’ll likely begin to see similarities in your choices. If you can change how you choose, you’ll change who you choose, too.
- Phone a friend. Ask your friends about your patterns. Ask the people who are most likely to be honest with you. They probably see exactly what you’re doing. However, if your friends excuse your behavior and blame all your exes, they’re likely stuck in karmic patterns, too. Instead, find your healthiest, happiest friend and ask them to tell you what they see. They might provide insights into your relationships that can help you grow and make necessary changes.
Final Thoughts
Karmic relationships will repeat until you learn what you need to from them. Most karmic relationships are not going to work out.
The rare exception is when both parties resolve their karmic issues and choose to strengthen the relationship. This is an extraordinarily rare occurrence. Often, even if both people want to change, they’ll likely grow in separate directions when they do.
Karmic relationships aren’t meant to last. They’re meant to be a wake-up call that you need to remove yourself from a harmful pattern
