Desire may be illustrated by a young person who tells you they can’t live without you, that they’re miserable, and that life seems colorless and empty when you’re not around. That may be a form of love, but it’s not the sort of love that will hold a marriage together through the years. In this article, we shall discuss things to consider in choosing a life partner.
While they may feel they “need” you today, it’s possible that five months from now you’ll no longer meet their “need,” and they’ll find that they “need” someone else.
What I tell these young couples is that love is based on commitment, and that everything you do is to fulfill, satisfy, and serve the one you love. Real love doesn’t enter a relationship with an expectation to just receive. It enters a relationship to give and give and give.
Let me illustrate how deceptive the world’s definition of “love” can be. Picture a young couple who has been dating for a few weeks. It isn’t long before this young man tells his girlfriend how much he loves her and how difficult it is to keep his hands off her. Pressing her to engage in a physical relationship, he explains that he “loves her so much” he can no longer restrain himself.
The truth is, any young woman who hears that line should realize that the young man doesn’t love her too much… he loves her too little. Actually, he’s not thinking about her. He’s only thinking about himself. He would never rob innocence and purity from one he truly loves. His insistence on a physical relationship only proves one thing: he loves himself much more than he loves her.
It is very important to choose somebody with who you can easily strike a conversation. This way, you can enjoy doing things and talking about them together without getting bored.
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Here Are Some Things To Consider Why Choosing A Life Partner
Potential Partner With Same Interests
Selecting someone who shares a lot of common interests with you will work in your favor. Remember that all your interests don’t really have to be the same, but some would do. Says clinical psychologist and relationship expert Seema Hingorrany, “When you decide to spend your life with someone, you must look at things that the two of you would love to do together. For example, if you are a movie buff, you would ideally like to be with someone who enjoys movies as well. This will make your life interesting.”
Consider Your Partner’s Intellect
If you are a laid-back person and your partner is an over-achiever, that could lead to a threat in your marriage. You must see eye to eye on how both of you are able to think and process things.
It’s Okay To Have Standards
While choosing a life partner, you need to consider your and your family’s standards. Though it’s okay to choose someone who probably does not belong to the same strata of society as yours, make sure that he/she’s not completely off the mark.
You Should Have Respect For One Another
You obviously cannot spend your life with someone who has no respect for you or your dreams/goals or your personality. So, choose someone who will acknowledge you for the rest of your life.
Is Your Potential Trustworthy
In this day and age, it is extremely important to choose someone you can trust. You definitely cannot lead a happy marriage if you cannot trust each other or have faith.
Spend Time Together
Just as important as it is to have similar interests, it is also crucial to be with someone who gives you enough time and who you would love to spend time with.
In summary, what really brings peace to a relationship? How do you choose a marriage partner? Let me leave you with just a few thoughts. Make sure your life partner loves God more than he or she loves you. I hope you find this article helpful as well as interesting.
