Giving your breakup a go and committing to being happy while single is probably the healthiest thing you can do. Doing so involves not talking to your ex for a while, including texting. You may be sure that you should talk to your ex, but all your friends and family members may tell you not to. Well, they do actually have a point. Here’s why you shouldn’t talk to your ex and should instead commit to your breakup.
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1. Right after the breakup
Time heals all wounds, and it’s what you both need right now. When you are used to reaching out to one person to talk about your feelings, it can be tempting to go to your ex for comfort right after the breakup.
But this is a major mistake. You’ve already done the hard part of going through the end of the relationship. Now you need to take a step back and put work into your breakup by not texting your ex.
2. You haven’t completely healed
If you keep touching an open wound to see how it is, it’s never going to heal. It’ll get infected, and you’ll be even more in pain. Treat your breakup just like a wound. You have to give yourself time to reflect on it, to work on yourself, to forgive them, or do whatever you have to do. Once the wound is completely healed, you can reach out to your ex and maybe try again. But don’t think about that now.
3. You’re not in a good state of mind
Are you struggling with anxiety, stress, and depression? If the answer is yes, it’s not a good idea to reach out to your ex.
What you need is rest and a lot of work on yourself, not distracting yourself from your own problems by talking to your ex. It’s even worse when they were the one who put you in the bad mental state that you are now.
4. The situation can end up being worse
As we said before, unless you are 100% sure that you’ll get nothing but closure out of this situation and that it’ll bring you peace, do not reach out to them. If the conversation doesn’t go anywhere, you’ll ruin every chance there is for you two to try again in the future.
5. The relationship was toxic and miserable
You’ve finally wriggled out from under a toxic, miserable relationship. Why dive right back in? Commit to your breakup with the person who made you so unhappy, and don’t reach out to them. It is time to move on!.
6. When your ex starts dating again
Maybe you are scrolling through social media or you are out with friends when suddenly you receive the news: your ex has moved on and started dating again. Whether you are shocked, angry, or even happy for them, do not reach out to your ex to talk about this. For starters, it makes it look like you are stalking them. But this is especially true if your reaction is negative.
Blowing up at your ex is just going to make you look bitter, petty, and pathetic. Instead, write it out in your journal, tell a friend who is not a mutual friend of your ex, and do whatever you have to do. Just don’t talk to or text your ex.
7. After 8 pm
Do not call or text your ex late at night. Why? Because they will probably think it’s a booty call, or that you are drunk and want to yell at them. Either way, they are unlikely to answer. Best to wait until the daytime to try to text your ex.
