If you suspect that she regrets rejecting you, you might want to prepare yourself for what could potentially be an awkward conversation.
You could point out that she didn’t seem to want to date you and yet is consistently flirtatious. You can let her know that it’s confusing for you. This gives her the chance to clear up any misunderstanding.
It’s possible that she’s immature and has poor boundaries. She might not be intentionally leading you on. If you talk to her about it, it gives her a chance to course correct and stop confusing the nature of the relationship.
If this is the case, you’ll need to respect what she’s telling you no matter how much her behavior may contradict her words. No always means no, no matter what.
Respect what she’s telling you. If her actions make you uncomfortable in light of the fact that she really doesn’t want to date you, you may need to be the one who pulls away and initiates a change in the relationship.
It can feel challenging to stay friends with someone like, and you can be the one to set the boundaries to protect your feelings.
It’s also possible that she’s been waiting for the chance to tell you that she wishes she hadn’t been so hasty. If you open up the door to the conversation, it’s possible you’ll find out that she only wants your friendship. It happens. But it’s equally possible that she might just be waiting for her second chance.
Of course, you might have moved on already. If your feelings have changed, that’s important to clarify. Just be kind.
Even though she rejected you and hurt your feelings, it doesn’t mean you can’t reject her with kindness and consideration. Let her know that you no longer feel that way about her — if you’re sure of it and won’t be having any regrets of your own.
You’re going to need to ask her about her actions and how you should interpret them. It might be uncomfortable. It might even risk a second rejection. But it could also create an opportunity for the romantic relationship you’ve been hoping to share with her. If you no longer want that kind of relationship with her, you’ll have the chance to make that clear and return the relationship to a friendship status.
You were probably hoping you could figure out the clues without having to talk about it directly. But mature, healthy relationships involve clear communication.
