There are dozens of behavioral signs someone is attracted to you. Some of these are detectable a mile off, while others can be a little trickier to catch. Below, we’ve outlined 18 of the most common behavioral signs that someone is attracted to you.
1. They laugh at your jokes (even the terrible ones)
Some people just have a low threshold when it comes to humor, this is true. However, most of the time, when we’re attracted to someone, we giggle and laugh at pretty much whatever they say. If you’re wondering whether someone likes you, you could always try dropping a deliberately lame pun or cheesy pick-up to see if they chuckle. If they do, it’s a good sign they’re into you.
2. They find any reason to touch you
Touch is an enormous part of flirtation. Don’t take it as a sign all by itself though, as some people are simply more touchy-feely than others. By and large, however, if your date is constantly finding excuses to touch you – brushing against you while you walk, patting your leg when you laugh together, putting their hand on the small of your back while you go through a door – it’s a pretty strong sign that they’re attracted to you.
3. They’re very aware of their appearance
When we’re intensely attracted to someone, we often become more self-conscious of the way we look. If they keep adjusting their hair and clothes, it’s likely their currently experiencing a little self-consciousness themselves.
4. They contribute enthusiastically to the conversation
When we’re into someone, we do not want the conversation to dry up. We want to keep talking for as long as possible to give our personalities a chance to shine through. If it’s only you filling the silences, it might be a one-sided affair. If they’re asking questions and seem genuinely interested, you may be onto a winner.
5. They’re not distracted by other people
We all get distracted sometimes – it’s normal. But, if your date’s eyes are constantly wandering onto other people around you, it’s generally a sign they’re not interested and may even be looking for other prospects.
6. They don’t use their phone
First date etiquette dictates that using a phone for anything more than a quick text is, by and large, impolite – particularly if you’re mid-story. If they’re texting while you’re trying to tell them a hilarious anecdote, it’s likely a non-starter.
7. They look at you when they think you won’t notice
Little do they know, peripheral vision exists. If you clock them ogling you out of the corner of your eye, it can be a sign of deep attraction and a good hint that they like what they see.
8. They hold your gaze
This depends on how shy your crush is, of course. If they are an introverts they might not feel comfortable with sustained eye contact. As a general rule, however, any eye contact that lasts slightly longer than what feels normal is a good sign someone is attracted to you. The eyes say things the mouth doesn’t dare.
9. They’re all smiles
Everybody looks nicer when they smile. It shows we’re happy, comfortable, and having a pleasant time. If they’re smiling constantly, you’re doing something right.
10. They’re fidgeting
We’re not talking distracted fidgeting here, that is, scrolling Instagram and quaffing tequila shots. We’re talking more about nervous energy manifesting itself. If they’re peeling the label of their beer bottle or plucking blades of grass, it could mean they’re trying to conceal how much they like you. This is a strong behavioral sign of attraction to look out for.
11. They draw attention to their best bits
For men, this might mean they cross their arms behind their head, giving you a lasting look at their biceps, or it could be a not-so-subtle rubbing of their pecs. The signs a woman is attracted to you could include touching their lips, hair, or collarbone in a sultry fashion.
12. They’re licking their lips
Definitely more of an overt sign this one. If somebody’s thinking about leaning in for that first date date kiss, guess what, they don’t want to have dry lips.
13. They’re teasing you
By teasing we’re talking more ‘playfully mocking your lack of wine knowledge’ and less ‘flushing your head down a toilet.’ Gentle teasing is a sign of flirtation that continues right the way from our childhood into adulthood – just with a little more wit.
14. They compliment you
Compliments sound like an excruciatingly obvious sign someone is attracted to you. But it’s worth being a little wary with this one. For guys, for example, If we’re with someone we really like, we may be too shy to offer compliments to a woman, whereas, with people in the friend zone, we feel confident enough to be liberal with them.
This is a hard one to pin down, so combine it with other signs of attraction to confirm that the person is definitely into you.
15. They remove the physical barriers between you
Whether you’re sitting on a park bench or in a restaurant, if they drop their bag in the middle of you both it might not be a great indicator that they’re thinking of getting close to you. But, if they deliberately clear any items that lie between you, they’re subtly making a path to be nearer to you.
16. They ask to make plans
If somebody likes you, they’ll generally make plans with you (although some people prefer to play the dangerous game of hard-to-get). If they message you out of the blue and suggest meeting up, they’re likely into you. If there’s radio silence after you suggest a day out, maybe… not so much.
17. They’re attentive
They open doors for you, they take your chair out for you, they hand you a serviette if you need one, they notice if something changes in your expression. Attentiveness means they’re paying attention to you and your needs, and they want to make sure you’re happy and enjoying yourself. It might just be politeness – but often it’s a sign they like you.
18. They remember things you said
It might be the name of your dog, your birthday, or the last book you read. If they’re always able to recall everything you’ve told them, it’s a sign your chats are being logged away in a special section of their memories.
