Not long ago my wife and I were working through a difficult conversation with our kids. At one point, she gave me a look. I thought I knew what it meant and I went with what I deduced was the appropriate reaction. As you might have guessed already, I was wrong. I completely misread her body language, and it ended up creating some tension.
Now to be fair, we can’t expect anyone to guess what we mean based solely on our body language. However, we also know that we do communicate not just with words but also with our bodies. Reading female body language is an important skill for husbands to develop. Here are 3 crucial things to pay attention to if you want to understand your wife.
1. Her Eyes
It’s been said “the eyes are the window to the soul,” and I believe that’s true. Too often we’re so distracted, whether we’re watching TV, scrolling through texts, or checking our email, that we fail to make eye contact with our wives which is wrong. However, if you want to know what’s going on with your wife, reading female body language begins with making eye contact. Look deeply into her eyes when she speaks to you. Is she tearing up? Perhaps this topic is more important to her than you think. Is she avoiding eye contact with you? and did you find out why ? Perhaps she’s nervous about your response. The eyes speak volumes. Pay attention to them to every time even in the smallest conversations.
2. Her Distance
While everyone is different, and certainly some people need physical touch more than others, if your wife is distant physically it generally tells you there’s something off between you. She might say nothing’s wrong, but if you notice a pattern of her being distant, it’s a sign that she might be feeling emotionally distant from you as well so it will be matured you ask her what the problem is and carefully understand what her response is without interrupting.
3. Her Demeanor
“We don’t do it intentionally, but our bodies reflect what’s going on in our heads and hearts.”
None of this is bulletproof. And the worst thing you could do is assume you know what your wife is thinking without asking. However, if we want to grow in our attentiveness as husbands and really listen well to our wives, we need to recognize that reading female body language is a necessary skill to develop overtime, it is not something that happens almost immediately, it will take time to build this skill and if you do, you will end to be not only her best friend but the happiest man alive.
Always remember that women are home-builders so if you treat them right ,the home will be in a very balanced structure especially the kids. At every opportunity you get ensure you get to the root of what is actually wrong with her, it is a cross every husband has to carry for his wife year in and year out.
