What Every Thirty-Something Men Want From A Woman In 2023

Men in their 30s can be an interesting bunch—they’re old enough to have a good idea of what they want from a relationship but are young enough that they may still be exploring their options and playing the field. But what do men in their 30s really want in a woman?  They looked through thousands of profiles of men in their 30s to see what words they mention most often when describing what they’re looking for in a romantic interest and even talked to a few to get their insights.

What they found may surprise you…

The Top 17 Words Mentioned While Describing Their Perfect Match

  1. fun
  2. honest
  3. laugh
  4. humor
  5. funny
  6. nice
  7. sense of humor
  8. smile
  9. caring
  10. open
  11. loving
  12. smart
  13. kids
  14. down to earth
  15. happy
  16. family
  17. to have fun

Men in their 30s value a fun women with a sense of humor.
The most popular characteristic for men in their 30s is fun. And a lot of the top words they used to describe the type of person they were looking for were similar in nature such as laugh, humor, funny, sense of humor, and to have fun. 

“One of the first things I enjoy, is a women who knows how to flirt,” explained one man. “Especially if we can make each other laugh in the process. If we start out on the right track with a little bit of flirting, I know we have chemistry.”

But they’re not just about fun, they want someone honest too.
Though they may be looking for a women they can flirt and have a good time with, men in their 30s also value honesty. So much so that it was the second most popular trait. Other popular phrases included caring, loving, and nice.

“I like women that act really nice and have a good heart as well as a good head on their shoulders,” said one man.

Family and kids are important to men in their 30s.
More so than any other age, men in their 30s mention family and kids while describing what they want in a potential partner. “I’m looking for a woman that cares about her family above anything else,” explained one man.

Men in their 30s want a woman who’s smart. 
Another popular trait among men in their 30s was smart. They aren’t just looking for a pretty face but someone who’s going to challenge them and who they can have a conversation with. “When a women can have a conversation with you and her eyes never leave yours, they have that confident, intelligent, sincere twinkle… I would walk over hot coals for that type of women,” said one dater.

In many ways men in their 30s are the sweet spot of dating—they’re still young enough to want to have a good time and be with someone fun, but are old enough to know that they want more than that.

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