The beginning of a relationship is always the most exciting. You’re getting to know someone new with the same interests. Chemistry is hard to come by, so it’s a great feeling when you connect with someone with potential. Unfortunately, it’s also common for those feelings to fade.
One of you may get bored, or feel like the relationship isn’t moving fast enough. It’s a shame when something promising loses steam, but there are plenty of signs that a guy is losing interest to be on the lookout for.
1. Texting declines.
Back when things were going well, the two of you couldn’t stop texting. Now, it’s hours in-between messages — if not days — and you’re starting to feel ignored. This is a sign that you’ve fallen off of his list of priorities. That, or he’s just running out of things to talk about with you. Don’t push it. More texts won’t make him change his mind—they’ll probably just make him feel like you’re more maintenance than he’s ready for.
2. He’ll go out more, but not invite you.
Suddenly, his guys’ nights increase. It’s important for him to have a healthy social life, but if you’re left behind, it’s pretty obvious that he’s out there remembering the perks of being single. If the two of you aren’t official but have been stuck in the flirty stage for quite some time, he’s probably giving his number out to other people.
3. He stops complimenting you.
There isn’t a guy out there who’ll be constant with compliments, but in the glory days, he made sure to let you know you look nice. These days, you can’t even remember the last time he even glanced away from his phone. You should always get your confidence from your own sense of self, but if he’s not regularly complimenting you, his mind is probably wandering.
4. He’ll change his pet names for you.
It used to be hun, babe, or sweetheart. Now, it’s more like he’s talking to a buddy. Or, he’ll just use your name. There’s nothing wrong with that, necessarily. But in his mind, something is switching and he’s viewing you as something other than a romantic partner.
5. He starts talking way too much about someone else.
It might be a coworker or his friend’s latest girlfriend. Regardless, it reminds you a little of the way you used to talk about him. It doesn’t necessarily mean he’s got a crush on someone new. It just means that the two of you might not have the same spark that you used to, and he might be figuring that out.
6. He’s quick to fight.
Fighting is normal in any relationship. But when it seems like absolutely everything ends in a massive disagreement, he may be looking to start the fight in hopes that you’ll be the one to break up with him. When you’re losing interest in someone, a lot of events that are meant to be fun seem more like a chore.
7. He lets go of his hygiene.
Hygiene is something we should all be on top of— even if you think you don’t need a shower, you probably do. Even though we’ve all fallen short at some point, your guy seems to have given up completely. Especially when he’s expecting you to visit. If your boyfriend doesn’t brush your teeth before you visit, there’s definitely room for offense.
8. There’s no longer any talk about the future.
When you first started dating, you weren’t shy to bring up marriage or kids. But these days, he squirms a little when the future comes up and it’s not because he’s busy ring shopping. Next time bring up your timeline, pay close attention to his reaction. It’ll tell you everything you need to know.
9. You’re left out of big family events.
If you were invited to family gatherings before and are no longer, that’s a huge sign that a breakup may be close by. But if you’ve never met his relatives before, it’s a good sign that he’s not really seeing long-term potential in the relationship. It’s not easy to introduce someone to your parents, regardless of your age. If he’s already losing interest, he’s not going to go through that hurdle.
It’s hard to face when your relationship is facing rocky waters.. But, there is some good news—it’s not your fault. If a guy loses interest, it doesn’t mean you’re boring. It just means that the compatibility isn’t there. There’s plenty of other people out there who’d be better long-term matches.