Ditch the selfie but have a photo of your face
Women who use selfies on their dating profiles tend to get great results. For guys though, that isn’t so often the case. But since the initial connection is made based on your photos, you still need a good shot of your face.
Group pictures can be deceiving and might cause someone to swipe past your profile rather than taking the time to figure out which one of those dudes in suits is the owner of this profile. So getting a good selfie is key. If you don’t have a good photo that a friend’s taken, here’s a trick—use the timer on your phone to take something.
Pick other great photos
Women want to know who you are, not what you drive. That also applies to the fish you’ve caught and any poses with weapons (pictures with guns can easily be taken the wrong way). Remember, you’re trying to impress a woman, not another man. So choose photos that tell a story that’ll appeal to her.
Share about yourself
A bio that reads “Just ask” is not giving us a lot of incentive to get to know you further. You can be super attractive, but if you have nothing to say about yourself, that makes you look boring. A bio doesn’t need to cover your whole life story, but you should give us a reason to want to know more about you.
Talk about your favorite things to do, your ideal Friday night, or what you nerd out about the most. You can ask a friend who’s a girl to help you craft the ideal profile for some inspiration.
Don’t be negative
There’s a certain kind of bio that lists all the things a dude DOESN’T want in a woman. Maybe you’ve been hurt before, or you’re sick of matches who just want to chat forever without meeting up, and you think that being proactive and protective of yourself is the way to go.
But, when you put something like “No drama please,” or “I’m not here to write novels back and forth,” to us, it comes across as you being picky and negative. That’s not a good first impression.
You might think that’s a no-brainer, but really, courtesy when using the platform is underused sometimes. Don’t ask if we’re DTF or talk about sex immediately. You might think of Tinder as a casual hookup app, but it’s evolved into a more complex dating platform.
If you’re only there for casual sex and you find someone else who makes it clear in their profile that that’s their jam too, great! But, you still need to open the conversation with some basic decency. If you’re operating off the assumption that you can start a conversation any other way, you’re not treating us very well.
Make an effort
An opening message of “hey” isn’t very interesting. It doesn’t take a lot of time to look at our profile and craft something a little more personalized.
Comment on our wildest photo, or ask about what we wrote in our profile. If you don’t want to go to that much effort, you can do something as simple as asking, “What’s the best movie you’ve seen recently?” Trying a little bit can make a big difference.
Of all the Tinder tips for guys we could throw at you, this might be the most important. Taking it too seriously can ruin anyone’s experience. If you set out with good intentions and a good outlook, you’re bound to have luck eventually.
Whether you’re there for a hookup or looking for something long-term, treat us well and trust that being kind makes you a true catch. What are you waiting for? Head out there and try out these Tinder tips for guys!.