25 Attractive Conversation-Starting First Tinder Messages In 2023

Tinder first message #1: photo compliment & question

Does your match have a picture of a sunset, a hike, a beautiful piece of scenery, a party, a Halloween costume, a funny face, or something else notable? Great! This makes it easy. Simply say the photo is cool or make a comment about it, then ask a question. Here are some examples:

Love your hiking photo. Where was that taken? 
Epic sunset shot. Was that a pretty amazing day?
You make a great cat. What were some of your other Halloween costumes? 
Cute pup! Is he/she yours? 
Saw your guitar pic. Have you played for a while? 

Tinder first message #2: casual hello & simple question

Ok, so sometimes your Tinder match may be attractive and someone you’re into, but they won’t have a ton in their profile to go on. In that case, it’s good to go with a casual hello and a simple question to start things off. Check out these examples below:

Happy [add day of the week]. How are things going with you today?
Hey, how’s your day going so far? 
Hey! How’s the day treating you? 
Hi, how’s it going? Doing anything fun this week? 

Tinder first message #3: slightly flirty

Hey, it’s Tinder so it’s great to be flirty. But unless your match’s profile has flirty or sexually charged language in it, it’s even better to only be slightly flirty. Give them a little tease that makes them want more. For example:

Cute smile. What makes it come out the most? 
You look like you know how to have a good time. Had any adventures lately? 
I was hoping we would match. 🙂 Looks like you enjoy a lot of the things I do. 
Like your profile pic. Makes me think you know what you’re about. 
Hey! Funny meeting you on here. 

Tinder first message #4: question about basic profile info

You can always come up with a first message by commenting on their job, location, or school. They’re simple but give you more to go on. Here are a few examples:

Your job sounds super interesting. What exactly does a Job Name do?
Hey! Saw you went to School Name. I had a bunch of friends who went there. What year?
You work at Company Name. Cool! Do you like it?
I’ve heard good things about Company Name. How do you like working there?

Hey there! Are you new to the area or have you lived here a while?

Tinder first message #5: random question/comment

If the person you matched with has some funny photos or looks like they have more of a sense of humor, sending something a little more random and silly can be a good way to get their attention. Here are a few of our top picks:

What’s your favorite Bill Murray movie? 
I’m asking around: Where can you get the best guacamole in town? 
Rhode Island is neither a road nor an island. I think we should discuss don’t you? 
So I just finished watching Citizen Kane and I don’t get it. All that for a sled? 
I like songs with people’s names in them . Know any good ones? 

Conversation starters can be hard to find in any situation. On Tinder, the key is not to take it too seriously or try too hard. Chances are that you won’t hear from a lot of people you match with ever again. And it’s not you, it’s just how the app works. So put yourself out there, try some different messages, and see what works for you.


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