Tailing off part one of this topic, we can reiterate the fact that there are many traps single fathers can fall into. These are just a few more examples, like loss of identity and temptation. Find encouragement that though you may have stumbled into any of the ones listed, there is a way out and the ability to stay free once and for all. Let’s dig a little deeper…
1. Loss of Identity
To the single father who may have recently lost his marriage and/or children– a lifestyle that seemed unbreakable– this can be a crucial time to regaining any sort of foundation. If, in fact, you are coping with a loss of identity as a man, husband, provider, or father, now is the best time to begin the rebuilding process. Begin necessary steps such as growing in your faith or surrounding yourself with a strong support system. Stay in open communication with your children. It only takes a few loving words from our sons or daughters to pump life back into us! Know that you are an invaluable part of their life, whether they live with you full time or not.
2. Sexual Temptation
Billboards. Magazines. TV ads. Clothes (or lack of!). Sexual temptation is one of the forefront battles men face continually. Wisely set firm standards for our personal life. If inappropriate sexual thoughts are left unaddressed, small temptations can become larger snares down the line. Even seemingly casual surfing on pornographic websites can cause long-term disasters and addiction. Make the necessary changes now to abstain from sexual temptation later. Set the bar for your children so when they encounter the same struggles, you can lead them through it. Our children learn from watching us and modeling our behavior, even if they don’t know the full details. Be the standard for how your son should treat a woman and for your daughter on how women are worthy to be treated.