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How to Gain Confidence With These 4 Strategies
1. Gain confidence by making it a skill you can learn.
DNA does have something to do with confidence, but not everything. Self-Confidence is a skill you can learn, practice, and improve over time.
Brain science has proven repetitive thoughts and actions actually rewire neural pathways to foster measurable change. When you practice confident actions and thoughts repeatedly, you will eventually start building confidence.
Further, the more confident actions you perform, and the more successes you achieve as a result, the more confident you’ll feel.
Just knowing this fact should give you a confidence boost.
Just because you don’t feel confident speaking, meeting women, or going to parties doesn’t mean you will never feel confident doing these things.
2. Recognize that low confidence doesn’t define you.
When you lack confidence in one part of your life, it can begin to feel like you are a loser. You paint your entire life with a broad brushstroke of insecurity and doubt.
The feelings of low self-confidence, even if they are grounded in some truth, don’t define your entire life or your essential worth.
Everyone lacks confidence from time to time, and most people have pockets of insecurities that hold them back. You don’t have to be perfect to be successful.
In fact, you can be confident in spite of your imperfections. Confidence is a state of mind that allows you to move past failures and flaws and to even learn from them.
3. Understand the root cause of low confidence.
Quite often a lack of confidence is situational. Something has happened in the past to undermine your confidence in the present.
If you flubbed a big speech, then it’s natural to lack confidence in your next attempt. If your business tanked, it’s hard to muster the courage to launch a new venture.
Other times, low confidence has longer, deeper roots or is connected to your personality. Your sister teased you incessantly about your height, so as you grew older you never felt tall enough to attract women. You’re more of an introvert and was shy as a kid, so you’ve never felt comfortable in big groups.
By examining the reasons behind your self-confidence problems, you gain a certain control over them. When you recognize the root cause, it no longer holds the same power.
Simply because there’s a source for your insecurities doesn’t mean you’re trapped in them forever and can’t have confidence in yourself.
4. Gain confidence by overcoming limiting beliefs.
Situational or long-term confidence problems train us to believe certain things about ourselves.
The strong negative feelings associated with failure, embarrassment, or shame, make us wary of stepping on a potential emotional land mine.
Why tempt fate if it’s possible we might fall on our butts once again. We begin to embrace our limiting beliefs as reality.
These negative feelings are natural, but they aren’t always truthful — and they’re holding you back from your potential.
You may have flubbed a speech previously, but now you know what you did wrong, and you’ll correct it. You are capable of speaking successfully.
Your sister may tease you about being short, but all women don’t feel the same way. You might be an introvert, but you can act against your personality type and become comfortable talking with others.
Change and growth are always possible. You just need to change your mindset about your beliefs.
