5 Attitudes of People Raised by a Narcissist

Narcissists are among the worst kind of human beings. They lack introspection and self-reflection. Keep reading to learn the 5 attitudes of people raised by a Narcissist. 

 

This personality has a poor emotional memory and a “grandiose” delusion about their own importance. 

 

It’s quite unfortunate that Narcissists are socially toxic and have no shame. Whatever these people touch, they always leave a trail of emotional damage around. 

 

It’s easy to identify people who were raised by Narcissists. These people are often broken and always feel inferior whenever they are around people. 

 

We are the products of our upbringing. 

 

Sadly, the impact of your upbringing can affect you throughout your life. Sometimes, being raised by a narcissist gives you the belief that you are just not good enough. 

 

And perhaps, that is because you only receive conditional love from your parents. 

 

Without further ado, here are 5 attitudes of people raised by a Narcissist. 

 

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#1.  They Feel Undeserving

One of the damages being raised by a Narcissist will cause is to make you feel undeserving of the good things in life.

 

You will feel it’s unusual to be happy, successful, and loved. Whenever people recount their successes and positive experiences in life, you will feel unworthy of these experiences.

 

You will always be caught up in negative and pessimistic thoughts. Unfortunately, you may not even be aware of the fact that you see yourself as unworthy or undeserving of positive experiences. 

 

But you will blame everybody around you and continuously make excuses about everything. 

 

It comes with a sense of hopelessness and insignificance. Except you do something about it, you may continue like this for the rest of your life.

Being raised by a Narcissist may have programmed your inner critic to only see the worst part of everything you do. 

 

So, try to use this famous quote by Marianne Williamson to reassure yourself that you deserve all the good things in life… 

 

Always remind yourself that…

 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. 

 

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? 

 

Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. 

 

Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. 

 

We are all meant to shine, as children do.  As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. 

 

As we liberate ourselves from our own fears, our presence automatically liberates others.” 

#2. They Try to Make Everybody Happy

 

Trying to make everybody happy is one of the attitudes of people raised by a Narcissist. Actually, there’s nothing wrong with trying to make people happy. 

 

But when you do this at your own detriment, it’s obvious that you are still suffering from the damages done by a Narcissist. 

 

These people hate conflict, they don’t want people to be mad at them. In fact, all their life is a cycle of trying to please other people. 

 

When you meet these people, they seem very happy and comfortable with life. But deep down they are lonely and depressed. 

 

And they try to make everybody happy because they feel lonely and don’t want to accept the fact. 

 

The problem with trying to make everybody happy is that you will end up feeling undervalue. Because you don’t get the same amount of love and attention you give to other people. 

 

#3. Low Self-Esteem 

Low self-esteem is one of the most common attitudes of people raised by a Narcissist. These people have no confidence about themselves and the things they can do. 

 

At all time, they feel incompetent, unloved, and inadequate. When working in an office environment, these people will be afraid of making mistakes or letting their superior down. 

 

Unfortunately, having a low self-esteem can affect your professional and personal relationship with people. 

 

In a nutshell, your self-esteem is your opinion about yourself. Of course, we all lack confidence at some point. 

 

But the difference between a low self-esteem and a high self-esteem person is the ability to motivate yourself to keep going even when you have a second thought. 

 

Low self-esteem is one of the damages narcissists do to people. But once you realize that you have low self-esteem, pay attention to your confidence and engage in daily practice to boost your confidence. 

#4. They Don’t Trust Their Decisions 

 

People who are raised by Narcissists don’t trust their decisions. These people lack self-confidence and are always afraid of making the wrong decision. 

 

If you observe these people, you will realize that they always create a false dichotomy of a right and wrong decision to create an illusion of control instead of recognizing their ability to thrive in different situations and navigate through challenging times. 

 

Furthermore, these people tend to struggle between two equally positive options.  The struggle is not really about the best option, but lack of confidence in their own abilities. 

 

And when this habit persists, it could degenerate to mental health, difficulty in sleeping, etc. 

#5. They are Not Themselves When Around People 

Due to continuous emotional abuse and torment, people raised by Narcissists find it difficult to be themselves around people. 

 

So, they are always scared of being themselves when around people because they are scared of experiencing emotional abuse or torment. 

 

They will always feel inferior about themselves  and would want to blend into a group just to be accepted. 

 

Sometimes, these people can do anything to get people’s validation. 

 

Have you lived with a Narcissist before? Kindly share your thoughts in the comment section. Thank you. 

 

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