How To Get Your Ex Back With The ‘No Contact Rule’

No contact rule? This is one of the hardest but efficient ways to get one’s ex back. At first, when I was introduced to this no contact rule, I feel like I’m pushing my ex far away. I feel like I’m not going to get her again, but when I played my cards well, I was able to get her back with this ‘no contact rule.’

Most relationships suffer breakups due to many reasons. Not everyone prays for their relationship to experience a setback because it’s sometimes difficult to deal with it or to get over our ex. Although, in many cases, it’s the very right thing to do.

Nevertheless, some relationships experience or need to break up or need some space to fix their relationship. This is where the ‘No Contact Rule’ comes to play.

I know this no contact rule might seem to be a game to some people. But I want to condemn that because love is not a game like chess. And fixing relationships needs commitment and discipline. I believe that if you find yourself with this article, I’ll want you to thank your stars, as you’ve found the right way of getting your ex back through no contact rule.

‘No Contact Rule’ – you must have been hearing of this strategy, but you don’t fully understand what it means and how it works. So, I’ll, first of all, gives you the meaning of what no contact rule is.

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What is ‘No Contact Rule’?

“The No Contact rule is where you don’t call, text, or message an ex in any way after the breakup. It includes not talking to their friends or family about them or the breakup itself,” says Lee Wilson.

As you can see, the term no contact defines itself. However, this strategy has been in existence and been utilized by couples, boyfriends, and girlfriends for ages. But this doesn’t mean this strategy is an archaic one. No, it’s not.

If you still don’t get it, here is a formula sketched by Chris Seiter. “The No Contact Rule = The premise behind NC (no contact) is that you cut off all communication with your ex for a certain amount of time with the intent of making them miss you while simultaneously facilitating a recovery.” He said.

According to my findings, the no contact rule is also known as ‘Radio Silence’ on your ex-boyfriend or Ex-girlfriend. That’s, there will be a zero communication with your ex, be it by texting, calling, or refrain yourself from meeting them physically or in public spaces for a set period. Although this rule can also be used to maintain a breakup, this post is mainly about how to get back with your ex through this no contact rule.

Now it’s time to dig deeper into the subject of using ‘No Contact Rule’ or ‘Radio Silence’ on your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. If you want to use the No Contact Rule to get your ex back, I want you to know that it’s to make you improve yourself and become a better version of you.

Why No Contact? 

The purpose of this no contact rule is to help you heal from the breakup and get some perspective. Let’s assume your ex is a ‘drug’ that you are addicted to, and the only way you can stop this drug is to go cold turkey. That’s precisely what you are doing here. Like I said earlier, when you go no contact, it means


  • No Text Message


  • No phone calls


  • No going over to their house


  • No accidentally bumping into them


  • No Facebook messages or WhatsApp of any kind


  • No contacting them via your mutual friends


  • No status messages on Facebook (or any other social media) are meant for them.

By doing this, you are keeping to the no contact rule, and your ex will surely miss you because they haven’t heard from you like they always do.

What are you going to be doing during this No Contact with your ex?

This question is mostly asked by people implementing the no contact rule. It’s a very simple thing. Amid your radio silencing your ex, this time, you have to build your self-esteem and worthiness. Live your life.

Do everything you can to make yourself feel better. Be your own best friend, and take care of yourself because no one else will do it for you. No contact is the time to make yourself a happy and confident person.

You have to learn that you don’t need your ex to be happy. You don’t need your ex at all. You may want them, but you don’t need them. There is a big difference between wanting something and needing something.

During this period, you have to stay healthy. You have to understand that you are not your mind. You have to become more potent than those urges that you feel to contact your ex.

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Activities to Keep Your Mind Occupied During No Contact

Physical activities such as; Yoga, gym, any sport you love doing, or jogging. Any of these physical activities will help release endorphins that make you feel better.

Social activities such as; going out with your friends and family do a great job. A part of you will want to be alone during no contact with your ex, but you’ll have to force it out and maintain your social life.

You can even go on a date, but going on dates does not apply to everyone, as it might make you start comparing your ex with your date. So, to be on a safer side, avoid going on dates but spend time with your friends and family. They will undoubtedly aid your healing and thoughts about your ex.

What to avoid doing during No Contact 

Avoid obsessing over your ex. Please stay away from alcohol, drugs, or cigarettes, all in the name of not being able to think about them.

How long should No Contact Rule Last?

Many relationships experts have stated days no contact with your ex should elapse. Many reported 21 days, 30 days, or 45 days.

But I believe no contact rule should last based on the terms of your break up. What do I mean about that?

Let’s say you’re observing the No Contact Rule, you’re doing your best and not calling or texting your ex. And then out of nowhere, you receive a text from him or her stating “Honey, I’m sorry for everything that has happened, I’m ready to prove to you that I’m a changed person.”

In this case, the time spent for no contact does not matter so far. Your ex has admitted his or her mistakes. You extending the No Contact or not responding will make it seem like a game, and you might lose them.

Although this rule is tough to follow and attain success, those who put their feelings aside and focus on the goal usually reach their expectations.

It’ll be a challenging journey. I’d be lying to you if I were to tell you otherwise. The good thing is that many people have done it with success before. Therefore, you, too, can do it if you play your cards right.

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