Without exception, I believe every man has five options. I know, because unfortunately, I’ve been all four types. And each type of man has an impact on the type of husband, father, and leader he will be. So what are those five types of men, and which one are you?
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1. The Whiner:
This is the man who gets up most mornings and chooses to be paralyzed by his past. He finds it difficult to move forward in life because he’s constantly looking backward. He chooses to blame his present struggles on his past problems. The result is that he becomes what I call a “Why Baby.” He asks questions like:
- Why did that happen to me?
- Why didn’t that happen for me?
- Why him (or them) and why not me?
2. The Worrier:
This is the man who is not paralyzed by his past, but he’s fearful of the future because he’s constantly looking ahead. He’s afraid to move forward. But unlike the Whiner, the Worrier doesn’t ask “Why?” because he’s too busy asking himself, “What if?”
- What if this happens?
- What if that happens?
- What if this doesn’t happen?
3. The Waiter:
This is the man who is indecisive in the present. He’s waiting for a miracle or act of God to change his circumstances or situation. He expects to be rescued and reap the rewards with little or no effort on his part.
For instance, he wants his marriage to improve, but he’s not willing to go to counseling. He wants to stop watching pornography, but he won’t join a support group. He wants a better relationship with his children, but he won’t spend more time with them.
4. The Wounded:
This is the man who lives in isolation, solitude, and suffers in silence. He’s still hurting from his past, he feels helpless in the moment, and he feels hopeless about his future. He’s stuck in shame and guilt, and it’s difficult for him to talk about it because he finds it very difficult to trust anyone. He’s either too angry, too afraid, or too ashamed to move forward so he doubts himself, others, and even God.
