The moral of the story is, if you are thinking of divorcing your wife because you’re simply unhappy in your marriage, DON’T do it. Studies show you’ll be much happier in the end, if you can work through the issues. The grass is always greener where you water it. To that end, here are the 4 ways to divorce-proof your marriage.
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1. Be faithful.
Love her unconditionally and love her with every ounce of creativity you can muster. This may sound like a no-brainer, but the practice of faithfulness requires vigilance every day. Faithfulness is far more than a physical condition. If you’re still unclear, ask yourself the following questions to who is #1: Who do I spend the most time with? Who is my primary emotional confidant? Who do I text most often?Who do I call? Who gets my emails? Who lights up my fantasy life?
2. Surround yourselves with strong relationships.
When the couples around you separate or get divorced, ending your marriage begins to look par for the course. Peer pressure doesn’t let up just because we left high school. So make peer pressure your ally – Be deliberate about forging friendships with strong couples and people who live their commitment out loud. Put yourself in an encouraging place – Look around, ask yourself where marriage is valued and positive relationships are encouraged. If it’s your local church, then get involved as a family and do what it takes to get the encouragement that we all need.
3. Get help.
If you can take your car in for a 30,000 mile checkup, then why not your marriage? Counseling can be preventative; it’s not just for emergencies. Alternatively, join some kind of a support group where there is instruction, encouragement and accountability. We weren’t created to live alone, and we don’t have to solve our problems in a vacuum.
4. Take care of your finances.
Money problems are the No. 1 cause for marital discord. Make sure you and your wife are on the same page financially and then work hard to keep your heads above water.