Do you find yourself resisting change that must occur for your life and family to grow? Change is certain, and as men, we have to be ready and adaptable enough to accept each new challenge. The best way to shape positive change is to muster the courage to face reality. Here are 3 major life changes we must embrace to successfully keep moving forward.
1. We’re getting older.
I recently turned 50. I’m not exactly ecstatic about that, but the date came regardless. Various ages bring different perks and challenges. I now can get discount hotel rates, but I also must consider sugar and salt as adversaries. In my marriage, we must begin transitioning to an empty nest. How will we coexist and thrive after children? Aging scares many men. They tend to cling to the past and that can cause serious issues. Don’t be the guy stuck 10 or 20 years behind reality. Embrace your age and the season you are in and make the most of it.
2. Our children grow up.
This perhaps has been my biggest stumbling block as a dad. I’ve enjoyed each stage of parenting so much that I get depressed when a new stage starts. My youngest daughter, who is nearly 18, cannot stand that I still want her to be the 10-year-old who followed my every footstep. She needs me to accept the current her
3. Marriages and relationships evolve.
Many couples cite “we just drifted apart” as the reason for their divorce. But why did they drift apart? The answer a majority of the time is that people change. If you want to avoid drifting apart, start by facing physical, emotional, and philosophical changes together. For instance, my pastor married a woman who is a vibrant, intelligent go-getter. Eventually, she endured physical hardship and is now bound to a wheelchair. Her physical challenge is also his. Circumstances changed but they evolved with them—together.