What’s sad is that this day could be so much better if a husband simply would have made notes, if not asked ahead of time what her expectations were for her next birthday, and planned accordingly. (This is especially helpful if you have younger kids who wouldn’t be able to plan on their own anyway.) Here are 3 other times a husband should be willing to ask for help.
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1. When You Don’t Know What She’s Thinking
It’s a popular post because men—and husbands in particular—can miss some cues. While many of us were willing to ask for help when we were dating, there are times now when we still need to swallow our pride and ask for help. In those moments when you don’t understand what she means, wants, or needs, ask her kindly to explain it to you. It’ll save both of you frustration and heartache.
2. When You Don’t Know What to Give Her
For some wives, this might not be a big deal. For others, this can cause problems in your relationship. Getting your wife the right gift helps her see how well you know her and how much you’ve been paying attention. When you’ve had a tough go at buying your wife gifts, you can start to dread days like Christmas, her birthday, and your anniversary. This is a good time to ask for help. Talk to her mom, her sister, her best friends about what your wife loves and needs. You could also have a conversation with her several weeks before one of these occasions about what sort of gift she would like best.
3. When You Are Tempted to Cheat
Infidelity normally isn’t a single major decision but follows a series of small compromises that open the door to an affair. The consequences for you, your wife, your kids, and other relationships can be devastating. If you realize that you’ve started down that road, this is the moment to reach out for help. Bringing these situations to light is a great first step to guarding the integrity of your marriage. Ask for help from your friends, parents, pastor, and even your wife herself.