11 Ways to Know If A Guy Likes You In 2023

The fact is, it doesn’t matter if a guy texts you occasionally. Texting is fine, but it’s the least intimate and least important form of communication. So, don’t give some guy a free pass because he pings you from time to time. Instead, pay attention to the following signs a guy likes you.

1. He makes plans for the next date, on the date.

I’m not saying it’s imperative for a guy to do this, but if a guy is so into you that he locks down another date before the night’s even over, it’s a pretty clear indication he’s sincerely interested. As I teach in Love U, it’s not what happens on the date, it’s what happens AFTER the date that tells the real story of whether he’s interested.

2. He compliments you frequently.

Maybe he’s talking about how sexy you are. Maybe he’s talking about how funny you are. Maybe you say saying he hasn’t met anybody like you in a really long time. But when a guy can’t stop saying his inner thoughts out loud, it’s certainly positive. Genuine compliments don’t guarantee that a man wants to be in a relationship with you, but they do suggest that he’s excited about you, which is usually a good place to start.

3. He brings you around other guys.

A lot of men compartmentalize their love lives from the rest of their lives. You’ll see him on Friday nights at his place. He’ll take you out to a dinner or a Sunday hike. But if you’ve been seeing him for months and you still haven’t met his friend group, something is off. A man who introduces you to his friends is letting you know a few things. He is proud of you. He wants to show you off. He sees you fitting into his life. He wants you around even when he’s doing guy things. Those are some pretty obvious signs he likes you.

4. He calls you.

I know it’s a relic from the 80s and the 90s, but that’s sort of the point. If a guy actually takes the time to talk to you on the phone, it means he wants to speak to you. He wants to connect with you. He enjoys your company platonically. It means he’s not just sitting in front of his TV, eating dinner and, texting five other women at the same time.

Phone calls were once as disposable as texts. But now, a phone call, a Zoom call, or FaceTime is almost like a mini-date. Not many guys use the phone as it was originally intended, but trust me, a good old-fashioned phone call is a good sign a guy likes you.

5. He cares about making you feel comfortable.

You’ve been around guys who were insensitive to your needs and feelings. Men who are so narcissistic that it never even occurs to them that your opinions matter, too. Well, consider it a good sign when your man makes an effort to ensure you feel connected. He maintains eye contact when you’re speaking. He doesn’t look at other girls when you’re around. He’ll let you know that his awkward silence doesn’t have to do with you.

He notices if you’re starting to feel uncomfortable and immediately addresses the situation. You can’t always tell if a guy is going to be “the one,” but you have a much better chance when he prioritizes your feelings.

6. He asks you out.

It may sound silly, but I can’t tell you how many women I’ve coached throughout the years who are convinced that a man was interested, even though he didn’t ask you out. Maybe he flirted with you. Maybe he texted you. Maybe you even went out before. But if a guy isn’t actively making plans with you to see you quickly, he’s not that interested.

7. He acts like he’s attracted to you.

This one is tricky because just because a guy finds you attractive doesn’t mean he “likes you.” Many women have fallen for guys who came on strong with eye contact, body language, and aggressive sexual behavior and taken it as a great sign that he wants a relationship. Plenty of guys pursue sex with no interest in love, so we don’t overestimate the value of attraction. On the other hand, if a man does not demonstrate his interest physically – if he does not try to kiss you, sleep with you or otherwise show affection, he probably sees you as just a friend.

8. He’s in touch with you every day.

Ambivalent guys, avoidant guys, on the fence guys, they wait a few days between contact either to let you know not to get too attached to them or because they’re genuinely not even thinking about you. Guys who are thinking about you every single day will generally let you know that they are thinking of you because they want to be in touch.

It doesn’t have to be flowers. It could be little things: an emoji, a call before you go to sleep, or any other sweet gesture. These are behaviors of men who make for the best boyfriends.

9. He talks about your future.

That doesn’t mean he’s mentioning marriage on date one. But it does mean he’s doing a lot of “when can we see each other again?” or he’s excited about when you meet his friends or family, or he openly muses about when you can take a trip together, or when he could bring you to a friend’s wedding. That means he doesn’t just see you merely as Ms. Right Now, but he’s thinking of future plans.

10. He posts about you on social media.

You’ve been with men who keep you a secret. When you ask them why they don’t post about you, they start acting weird, deflecting, and saying that they just don’t do that. This is why it feels good to see him sharing photos of you with his whole network. It’s a validation that he feels the same way that you do, that he isn’t shy about sharing his feelings with his other friends, and that he genuinely likes you and sees you as a love interest.

Most men don’t post on social when they’re doing casual; the consequences are too great. But if you see your face on his Instagram, it’s a clear example of what a potential boyfriend should be doing.

11. He wants to know if you’re seeing anybody else.

Not because he’s jealous or controlling, but because he really likes you and wants to know whether he’s in the running to become your boyfriend. When a guy is genuinely interested, he’s the one who’s pushing the relationship forward. You don’t have to. That’s the beauty of when a guy is really excited about you.

No need to have an awkward conversation about exclusivity. No looking for subtle signs he likes you. A man with long-term potential escalates things and offers to take down his profile to be with you.

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