How to Find Your Soulmate

If you have been wondering how to find your soulmate, read this article till the end…

After a few heartbreaks or breakfast as it is now called, you are convinced you need to go in search of the person made for you.

You search for this someone because you believe in the existence of this person who is perfectly made for you — and sometimes from you.

You believe that the person is the bone of your bone; your soulmate and that your other relationships failed because it was with this person.

And you want to know how to find your soulmate.


If you’re this person, this article is for you.


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Firstly, who is a soulmate?

A soulmate is a person ideally suited for you as a close friend or a romantic partner. A soulmate is the person who is perfect for you.

So, here’s how to find your soulmate

#1. Know What you Really Want

How to find your soulmate step 1 is getting clear about what you really want.

As stated earlier, every failed relationship in your past took you a step closer to what it is you really want in a partner.

A lot of people make the mistake of focusing on the negatives instead of the positives.

The good news is, if you know what you don’t want, you know what you do want. Your power to create lies in your ability to choose thoughts that are positively clear so that you can tell the universe exactly what you desire.


#2. Imagine the Love you Want

If you are ready for love, one of the best things you can do is to get lost in the imagination of your soulmate.

As you imagine your ideal partner, you’re unconsciously sending indicators to the universe about the kind of partner you want to attract.

The universe receives these indicators of what to create in your life. In your imagination, you can create and work on your dream relationship until it meets your highest ideal.

Once you have that ideal image in your mind, play it on repeat, until the day you will find yourself actually living it.

The power of your imagination is unstoppable and can transform your love life. Just like Claude M. Bristol said, “undoubtedly, we become what we envisage.”


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#3. Fall in Love with Yourself

If you are someone who hates him or herself because you have a crooked smile. Or because you don’t have enough money or because of any reason whatsoever, you tend to give off an energy that repels people.

Self-criticism is negative energy that may repel potential mates.

On the other hand, self-love is a very simple way to attract people, your potential partner inclusive.

To help you love yourself better, make a list of ten things you love about yourself and put this list where you can see it every day.

Your eyes, your soft skin, your penmanship. . . It doesn’t really matter what is on the list as long as it easily generates good feelings that you have toward yourself.

The more you focus on what you love about yourself, the more self-love you will experience.

And when you fall in love with yourself others will fall in love with you, too, and this is simply because there is great energy attached to people who love themselves.

#4. Enjoy the Present.

If you are waiting to find love before you start living, you are doing it wrong.

You will attract what you are. You cannot be shallow-minded and attract someone who isn’t.

If you desire a partner who is fun, loves reading and enjoys working out, you better start visiting the gym, jogging in the park, and hanging out in the bookstore.

Don’t wait for your partner to arrive before you do something you had always wanted to do. Start living your best life right now and you will become super-attractive. And this will make that special person spot you in a crowd.

Do spontaneous things.


#5. Live like you’re already in the future

If you still want to know how to find your soulmate or how to attract them, become the future you. All those good stuff you’re reserving for the future? Become it now.

“I’ll work harder in the future”

Why not now?

Now, look at this: reflect on how you live your life now (without your soulmate) and imagine your life with your soulmate.

Ask yourself the difference between the two. Who do you become once you are in the relationship? What are the things you will do differently?

Your answer to those questions will give you a clue as to who you must become now.

#6. Don’t seek perfection

If you create a rigid image of what your soulmate should act and look like, you’re doing it wrong. Chances are  you’ll miss out on the person you ought to be with.

Renowned sexologist and host of Libo Talk,Frenchie Davis stated “Your soul mate is usually not who you’ve envisioned, but an entity of love that co-opts a body that mirrors all of your imperfections in a way that makes you love yourself more, you’ll find your soul mate in what you consider your flaws. It will be the person that admires what you’re afraid to love about yourself.”


#7. Don’t Give up Easily

Do you want to know How to Find your Soulmate?

Don’t give up on the search. You are bound to get tired at some point. It will get difficult. The process of finding and attracting your soulmate might get tough but you are too.

Don’t give up on the search.


If you’ve read up to this point in this article, you really want to know how to find your soulmate. And must have found the above steps essential to help you carve out your path as you begin the journey but here’s an extra point:

Figure Yourself Out.

Are you a safe space?

Can your soulmate trust you with his/her heart?

Are you deserving of your soulmate or are you just acting up to attract him/her?


Reflect on these questions and make a decision.

Finding your soul mate is not as easy as getting matched on Tinder. A well-known dating coach, Stef Safran suggests that you  “invest in all parts of your life.” This might require you to engage in self-care, working out, exploring the things you love, etc. With this, you can learn more and get to know yourself better to help you identify the ideal person for you.



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