Luckily for me, my dad has always had qualities of a good grandfather, and not just his wearing of the calf-height white socks with shorts. In fact, he inspired what I believe are the 4 qualities of a good grandfather that dads should rip off.
1. More Patience
Most granddads aren’t as rattled by their grandchildren’s misbehavior. As dads, we often feel the pressure to instantly extinguish negative behaviors and character traits. But immediate timing is not always the best timing. Often, we need time for our brains and bodies to calm down to consider our best response.
2. More Delight
My “man’s man” dad is a delighted squish ball when he is around his grandkids. Every time he sees them, it’s as if he hasn’t seen them in five years. He lights up with a big smile and a huge hug. He thinks, no, he knows his grandkids are the funniest, most unique, intelligent, extraordinary kids on the planet. He thinks his grandchildren hung the moon. Try to convince him otherwise, and you will fail.
3. More Confidence
Granddads live in a way that communicates that “my grandkids are and always will be just fine.” Perhaps it’s grandpas’ distorted view of their grandchildren’s abilities, intelligence, and personality. When I was growing up, my grandfather had 100% confidence that his Teddy was a great kid. It’s good for a kid’s very being to have someone as important as a grandpa think he or she is great.
4. More Presence
My dad loves watching his grandkids participate in any activity or sport. He hasn’t missed any of my daughter’s four years of high school theater productions despite living two hours away. He is not a big theater guy, unless his granddaughter is on stage. Then he’s the biggest theater guy there is. And it’s not just my kids’ activities that make him present. The man is present any time his grandkids are in his presence. He doesn’t say much because he doesn’t need to; his face says it all.