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- 1 Exploring a One-Sided Open Relationship and staying sane
Exploring a One-Sided Open Relationship and staying sane
There are some fundamental yet often overlooked guidelines that can make your journey far less treacherous.
1. Communication is Key
Transactional analysis isn’t just a term for your psych 101 class, it’s a real deal in relationships. This involves understanding the ‘Parent,’ ‘Adult,’ and ‘Child’ ego states we all possess.
In a one-sided open relationship, ensure your ‘Adult’ is talking to your partner’s ‘Adult,’ especially when laying down rules and discussing feelings. No room for childish misunderstandings here!
2. Boundaries and Limitations
3. Safety First
Sure, we’re talking about emotional safety, but let’s not forget good ol’ physical safety. Both partners need to be transparent about their health status, especially if one is seeing other people. Regular check-ups, safe sexual practices.
4.Consensual Non-Monogamy Agreement
While not an official document, both parties should be in clear agreement about the terms of this one-sided open relationship.
Whether it’s a “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” *as we said earlier* policy or full disclosure about external dalliances, ensure that you’re both on the same page to avoid heartache down the line.
5. Emotional Check-ins
Finally, make room for periodic emotional audits. The relationship landscape is not static; it’s as dynamic as the stock market but without the Wall Street jargon.
Regular emotional check-ins allow you to gauge the health of your one-sided open relationship and make timely adjustments.
6. Digital Etiquette
In the age of social media, it’s crucial to set some online boundaries. What’s shared and what stays private can be a sticking point.
Are photos with other partners allowed on Instagram? Can you tag each other in tweets about your date nights? Knowing your digital do’s and don’ts can save you from many an awkward situation.
7. The “Veto Power”
Some couples introduce the idea of a “veto,” where either party can call off an external relationship if it begins to threaten the primary one.
Having this safety net can provide a sense of security, although it should be used judiciously to maintain trust.
8. Self-Care Routines
When one person is out exploring, the one who stays behind might feel a bit left out. This is a good time for some self-care.
Whether it’s a night out with friends or a pampering spa day, ensure you have a self-care routine to keep your spirits high and your emotional balance in check.
9. Exit Strategy
Hate to be a downer, but it’s always good to have an exit strategy in a one-sided open relationship. If things aren’t working out, what’s the plan? An amicable separation? Couple’s therapy?
Knowing the steps to take can remove some of the anxiety associated with potential relationship issues.
10. Social Circle Dynamics
Let’s not forget about the friend group! Are you telling them about your unique relationship dynamic, or is this on a need-to-know basis?
And if you’re open about it, prepare for varied reactions and questions. It might even change the dynamics within your social circle, so a heads-up can be helpful.