Confused On What To Say To Someone? Positive Tips On What To Say To Avoid Yourself Being Tongue-tied(2023)

What to Say to Someone When You Don’t Know What to Say

The secret of how to know what to say in any situation is to understand the obstacles you might face and to put yourself in the shoes of your conversation partner.

They’re not expecting perfection; they, like you, want an exchange that fits the occasion.

To that end, look over the following tips on what to say or do when you find yourself tongue-tied.

1. Get curious. Ask them what they’ve been doing since you last saw them.

Even when your social energy is at the low end, you can usually muster enough presence of mind to ask what your conversation partner has been up to since you talked last — or how their day has been going for them.

Here are a few ideas to get you started:

    • How’s work?
    • How’s the family?
    • How are things going since you graduated?
    • How are you feeling lately?
  • What’s good in your life right now?

2. Discuss mutual interests.

If you have mutual interests, these are a great place to start. Ask them what they’ve been doing lately in those areas. Or talk about something they’ve created or worked on.

Maybe they haven’t received much encouragement in a particular area, in which case your genuie compliments could brighten their day and provide some much needed inspiration.

You can also share your own progress with a passion project of yours. Just be sure to leave them an opening to share their own.

3. Memorize some helpful ice-breakers.

Some questions are better than others for getting a conversation going. Memorize some of your favorites to keep them in mind for the next time you run into someone and want to take a moment to catch up. They also work when you’re meeting someone new.

Just as interviewers have some questions ready to use before the first candidates show up, keep some questions at the tip of your tongue (or the palm of your hand).

Even if the conversation is a short one, most people appreciate, your interest in saying hello and seeing how they’ve been doing. Choose questions most people enjoy answering.

4. Prepare with useful information about the person you’ll be talking to.

If you know ahead of time you’ll be talking to this person, prepare yourself with some topics you know they’ll find easy to talk about: passions, projects, family, work, etc.

See what you can learn on your own about them before you meet. Your having bothered to learn about something that matters to them will make you stand out (in a good way).

Don’t cross the line into stalker territory, but do take a genuine interest in what’s important to them. They’re more likely, then, to show an interest in what matters to you.

5. Practice with people you find easy to talk to.

If you’re struggling to feel capable of social interaction, try practicing with someone with whom you feel at ease. Keep in mind, as you’re talking, that the next person you talk to is probably just as interested in having a pleasant conversation — the kind that lifts you up and reminds you you’re not alone.

Also, notice how some people you know put you at ease. What do they do that helps you feel more comfortable around them.

You can do the same for others.

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