5 Hot Compliments for Men They Can’t Resist In 2023

In as much as we they would not say it, men love compliments.

1. You look hot!

Women’s looks are so scrutinized that it’s almost impossible to feel secure in a sea of Instagram models, women’s magazines, and impossible Hollywood standards.

Men, on the other hand, are not socialized to care as much about their looks. They’ll focus infinitely more effort on making money…to get a woman they find attractive. But while men are perfectly willing to enjoy the spoils of women who find them attractive because they’re rich, the truth is, they also want you to like their physical appearance, too.

The truth is, the best compliments are often the ones that are unexpected. If a woman is told 100 times a day how beautiful she is, you can be sure she’ll pay extra close attention when a man offers her a compliment on how smart or funny she is. And, apart from the tiny percentage of GQ-looking men, guys, for the most part, never get to hear anything nice about how they look.

It doesn’t take a relationship expert to point out that giving too many compliments costs nothing and tends to go a long way. So let those physical compliments fly.

Tell him that his shirt brings out the color in his eyes. Praise him for his lush facial hair. Let him know you appreciate his great sense of style or that he’s in really good shape. Remember, these are not things men ever say to each other. So when you offer up the perfect compliment to your guy, I promise: you’re making his day and providing a real positive influence on his life.

2. You’re so smart!

Women value intelligence in men almost more than any other quality. Chances are, you want a man who is even more intelligent than you, which sounds great until you consider that you may be smarter than many men.

So does that mean every guy who doesn’t have a Master’s degree is an idiot? Of course not. There are many different kinds of intelligence. Part of your role of being a great girlfriend is to focus on the areas in which your man is impressive and offer genuine compliments on his prowess.

I once had a girlfriend who constantly felt insecure about not having gone to an elite college. She desperately wanted me to read her senior thesis and acknowledge her intelligence, but I was too young and stupid to see the importance of offering her this validation. You can learn from my mistakes.

Obviously, if your guy is a brainiac, it’s easy to compliment his intelligence. The thing is: he’s used to it, so it doesn’t mean as much. It carries a lot more weight when you can offer a genuine compliment to a man whose intelligence isn’t demonstrated in his PhD but in other areas.

Let’s say your guy is really handy. He may not be able to quote Shakespeare, but he can set up the router in your apartment. He can sand the rough edges of the deck in your yard. He can do a great job installing dimmers on your light switches. Compliment this man for his intelligence.

Let’s say your guy is an amazing boyfriend. He doesn’t mansplain and try to fix you, but he has proven, time and again, that he’s such a great listener. Regardless of whether he’s a C-Level executive, this man has a high EQ. Compliment this man for his emotional awareness.

Let’s say your guy knows random things that you don’t. It’s possible you have more of an academic background, but he can tell you the year Casablanca was released, how cryptocurrency works, or the etymology of the word hooligan. Even if this guy doesn’t have the most meaningful career, his self-esteem may be deeply rooted in Trivial Pursuit. Compliment this man on being an interesting person.

Remember, this is not about offering up a fake compliment to boost his self-esteem. This is about recognizing many kinds of intelligence and saying something genuine to ensure that your guy feels respected for the things he does well.

3. You’re so funny!

Women claim to love men who make them laugh. And boy, do men love to make you laugh. For many men who couldn’t get by on looks when they were younger, having a sense of humor is a huge part of their identity and the very thing that gives them the most self-confidence.

I remember having a roommate who was dating a woman who found him cute and generous (which he was), but she didn’t think he was funny (which he also was). It was a dealbreaker for them.

Everybody wants to be seen as we see ourselves. That doesn’t mean you have to think your guy is a stand-up comedian just because he amuses himself. What I do mean is that if he’s at all funny, it wouldn’t hurt for you to acknowledge it, the same way you’d compliment your heavyset friend on her eyes or her outfit. It costs nothing, it means everything, and if it makes your guy feel confident, then it’s a net positive for everybody involved.

4. You’re so honest and genuine!

Let’s face it:

There are a lot of horrible guys out there. So if you find yourself a genuine person, someone you can trust, someone who naturally does the right thing, make sure to say so.

Men are so used to hearing how awful other men are. Liars. Cheaters. Narcissists. Abusers. Selfish. Peter Pans. Mamas Boys. Players. Commitmentphobes. We get it. And those labels have nothing to do with the next good man that you meet.

So if good men are hard to find, you should celebrate when you finally do. Let him know he’s a generous person. Let him know he’s a great dad. Let him know you appreciate him. Let him know he makes you feel safe, heard, and understood.

Being a good guy is not always that rewarding. You routinely see jerks land the women you pine for, and you wonder why. That’s why some of the best compliments are the simplest ones.

“I trust you.”

“You’re a unique guy.”

“I feel good around you.”

If you can make your best friend feel like a big man just by being a GOOD man, you’re validating his entire experience and ensuring that nice guys don’t finish last.

5. You’re such a great boyfriend

Even the best boyfriends don’t feel like good boyfriends. It’s true. Go out with 100 women, and you’ll find 100 women to tell you all the things they don’t like about you and how much you need to change.

If you’re a hard worker who wants to get ahead with your career, you’ll be criticized for spending too much time at work.

If you are content with your career, you’ll be criticized for not being ambitious enough.

If you don’t obsess about how you look, you’ll be criticized for having no style or being a little overweight.

If you care about your appearance and work out and diet regularly, you’ll be criticized for being too rigid about what you eat.

If you’re charismatic and charming, you’ll be criticized for attracting other women.

If you’re not charismatic and charming, you’ll be criticized for not being confident and funny enough.

You get the idea.

In the same way you’d hate to go to work each day only to be told that you’re not doing a good job, that’s what it feels like to be a boyfriend. Whatever you do, it never seems to be enough.

That’s why the only thing that matters to men is that they are accepted by you.

We don’t expect you to think we’re perfect.

We’re hoping that you can appreciate that we’re doing our best.

That acknowledgment – making eye contact with him and saying, “I love you, you’re a great boyfriend, and I love our life together,” is the best compliment of all.

It means you see him for the man he is instead of focusing on the things he’s not.


Giving compliments doesn’t come naturally to everybody. If you didn’t come from a warm, complimentary family, this might be tough. If you’ve had your words thrown back at you by men, this may be tough. If you’re insecure about expressing your feelings or naturally shy, this may be tough.


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