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Joining the inner circle Rules
Now that you know how to make an important impression and talk at a party, we’ll get to building your networking community.
Once you strike up a conversation with someone, even if it’s the host, you’re pretty much a part of the party. Now, it’s your job to be the life of the party.
You want to meet people
If you know at least one of the party people, hang around with them for a while. Talk about the people around, and ask if your new friend knows anyone around. If they do know someone, that’s great news for you.
Ask your friend to introduce them to you. On the other hand, if your mate doesn’t know anyone, mentally make a note not to spend too much time with them again! Or if there’s a host, think about who you’d like to meet. Are they someone fun, someone sexy, or someone who might be able to get you a career boost? Your host will know exactly who to wheel you over to.
Once you’ve met up with someone new, start talking. Don’t go to the regular basics like “nice place, no?” or “oh, so you drink vodka?”
Go power talk. Go straight into their professional life. Ask them about what they do, and learn about their work. Knowing about all fields of work gives you enough confidence to talk about all aspects without looking stupid.
People usually like talking about themselves and their accomplishments, so avoid asking anything that has a direct ‘yes’ or a ‘no’ answer to your question. Learn to talk and extract information at the same time. This will help create interesting conversations that could even help you.
Don’t stick to anyone
Even if you’re having a great time sitting around with someone, don’t hang around with them the entire night. It’s good to take a break and talk to other people. To get out of the conversation without being abrupt or rude, say that you’re off to get another drink, or that you have to check up on your friend.
You may also find that the conversation would end naturally when you’re introduced to a new person and you start chatting with them and walk away with a smile. No one is going to get offended when you walk around at a party, everyone with brains come to a party to meet people.
Getting drunk and dancing like you’re at a frat party will become the topic of many conversations, and it’s never a great way to meet people at a party. If you want to party, then go on and dance. If you want to meet bigwigs and interesting people, sashay in the crowd and stop occasionally to chitchat.
Timing it right
In most places, unless it’s specified against it, being fashionably late is the in-thing. We see everyone do it, though some people scowl about it.
It’s always better to arrive when the party’s sprung to life rather than getting to the place even before the lights are on. And another fact to remember is that most people wouldn’t have arrived yet, which makes meeting new people that much harder.
When the party’s young, most people prefer to sit down in a corner than walk around. Talking to someone who’s just relaxing will make it look like you’re hitting on them, when all you have in mind is networking! Wait until the party’s starting to come alive with people and everyone’s conversing and willing to open up.
Towards the end of the party, make sure you’ve got phone numbers of all your new friends, and head off before you become party dregs or a part of the furniture.
Talking to people and building your network
Meeting people at parties is the new in-thing. Gone are the days when talking to someone at a party meant that you’re hitting on them. These days, partying is a lot more about communicating rather than hooking up or entering the dance frenzy. If you still think partying is meant only to lay chicks or meet cute blokes, grow up or party at some teenage dance club.