The knight’s code of chivalry in love
Literature on the codes of knights was written in medieval times and is still followed to an extent. What concerns us are the traits of a chivalrous knight when it comes to his love life in a manner that women would appreciate.
Andreas Capellanus, a twelfth-century author and courtier, wrote the twelve chief rules of chivalrous courtly love. These days, it may seem out of its element, but if you’re a man who craves knowing the real beginning of modern chivalry, here’s your answer.
The knightly code of chivalrous love
1. Thou shalt avoid avarice like the deadly pestilence and shalt embrace its opposite.
2. Thou shalt keep thyself chaste for the sake of her whom thou lovest.
3. Thou shalt not knowingly strive to break up a correct love affair that someone else is engaged in.
4. Thou shalt not choose for thy love anyone whom a natural sense of shame forbids thee to marry.
5. Be mindful completely to avoid falsehood.
6. Thou shalt not have many who know of thy love affair.
7. Being obedient in all things to the commands of ladies, thou shalt ever strive to ally thyself to the service of love.
8. In giving and receiving love’s solaces, let modesty be ever-present.
9. Thou shalt speak no evil.
10. Thou shalt not be a revealer of love affairs.
11. Thou shalt be in all things polite and courteous.
12. In practicing the solaces of love, thou shalt not exceed the desires of thy lover.