MINDSET OF A MR CHEATER IN 2023
So what is going on inside the mind of a cheating husband or partner? Here are some things that might be going on in a cheater mentality.
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1. They Impulsively Seek Sexual Gratification
Sometimes, infidelity is fueled just by a selfish need for sexual gratification. People who think like this may feel they are owed sex and may impulsively seek it out or take advantage of it when offered.
It is similar to a person with a shopping addiction. In cases like this, it is all about instant gratification without worrying or thinking about the consequences.
It comes down to a lack of self-discipline, where people choose instant gratification over considering other aspects such as their partner’s feelings, the ramifications on their relationship, and the effects on their conscience.
2. They Feel Inferior
Sometimes, men are unfaithful because of insecurity. They might feel their partner is smarter or more attractive than them — or it may not have anything to do with their partner at all.
Faced with situations that make them doubt themselves or feel inferior, some men find unhealthy ways to cope, including infidelity.
To paraphrase a popular meme: “Men will literally cheat on their partners rather than go to therapy!”
It isn’t true of all men, but self-doubt can play a role in how some men perceive themselves and try to overcome those feelings in unhealthy ways.
3. They Blame Their Partner or Justify Infidelity
Some men try to justify infidelity by blaming frustrations in their relationship or even perceived defects in their partner.
They might say that they wouldn’t be cheating if their significant other had sex with them more, gave them more attention, or if she hadn’t gained weight.
Every relationship has its struggles, and this kind of justification is a way of avoiding addressing them as a team.
Still, it is a convincing way for an unfaithful man to tell himself that he isn’t getting what he “needs” out of his relationship and is justified in seeking that attention or gratification elsewhere.
4. They Tell Themselves They Can’t Help It
Some men convince themselves that they are simply powerless against the temptation of sex with someone other than their partner.
They might tell themselves that there is no way they can resist those basic urges or that they are incapable of having a satisfying relationship with one person.
They look at it as a problem or even an addiction. When people truly believe this, they usually need long-term psychotherapy to help them resolve their self-perception issues.
And, of course, the infidelity won’t stop unless they agree to try therapy and sort through these problems on their own.
5. They Feel Misunderstood or Unlovable
Low self-esteem is frequently at the root of infidelity. Many men who cheat feel like their partners don’t understand them — or even that they are inherently unlovable.
When this happens, they may seek that understanding or affection elsewhere. As with all infidelity, this is not their partner’s fault but a personal problem that has to do with a lack of communication and self-perception issues that need to be worked out in therapy.
When someone avoids working through their problems, they may try to cope by seeking sexual gratification elsewhere.
