Can a Man Completely Transform In 6 Months?

Dear love author, is this true? can a man transform in a short-space?

I have tried to express some of the advice you have given in your blogs because she really deserves to be loved and respected in a relationship, but she tells me that she pushed him before and he is really a good guy and treats her well now.

Am I the crazy overprotective friend to be worried? Is it possible for him to have transformed in 6 months after their last breakup? Each time they dated before it lasted a couple of months but this time they have been together for almost a year now.

-Sadsis

 

Congratulations on your success and happiness, Sadsis. Glad I was able to help.

As for your friend, it’s impossible for me to offer any definitive answer.

After all, she didn’t write to me.

Not only that, but she’s not complaining about her boyfriend’s current behavior. You are.

That doesn’t mean you’re a crazy, overprotective friend. It just means you’re a friend, you want what’s best for her, and you worry that she’s too close to the situation to see it objectively. Your heart is in the right place.

Without any information beyond what you provided, I’d offer this disclaimer: my advice always leans towards the middle. I follow patterns and data and extrapolate them to apply to my readers and clients. Most of the time, I’m right. The rules apply more than the exceptions to the rules. That doesn’t mean there aren’t exceptions.

You want what’s best for her, and you worry that she’s too close to the situation to see it objectively.

Hillary had an 86% chance of winning the election. She didn’t win the election. That doesn’t mean the polls were wrong. It means that the other 14% came up.

So if you’re going to pass along any information from me to your friend, let it be this:

She’s hoping that she’s an exception to the rule. Chances are, she won’t be.

Among the best predictors of future divorce are:

  • Couples where there’s infidelity in the past.
  • Couples who break up and make up multiple times during courtship.
  • Couples where there’s a lack of integrity or poor communication (like, say leaving to meet one’s ex across the country.)

So, is it possible that your friend and her guy are going to live happily ever after? In the realm that anything is possible, yes.

She’s going to have to make her own mistakes.

Is it probable they’re going to live happily ever after?

I wouldn’t bet on it.

I’m not sure there’s much you can do except offer cautious words of wisdom and support. She’s going to have to make her own mistakes. But if she’s in her mid-late 30’s, wants kids and you feel really strongly that he’s a bad egg, I might stage an intervention. Then again, I’m not known for being the most tactful guy in the world, so take that for what you will.

 

 

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