What is the best book on relationships? Picking out one single winner can be tricky, but below we’ve put together a list of 15 of our favorites that everyone should read!
Table of Contents
- 1 1. Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
- 2 2. Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
- 3 3. Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
- 4 It helps you get to the emotional root of your relationship and understand the way people form attachments. Inside, you’ll learn how to improve a failing relationship, respond in a healthy way to your partner, and get your emotional connection back.
- 5 4. 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
- 6 5. Loving Bravely by Alexandra H. Solomon
- 7 6. I Hear You by Michael S. Sorensen
- 8 7. Love More, Fight Less by Gina Senarighi
- 9 8. Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman
- 10 9. All About Love by Bell Hooks
- 11 10. Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
- 12 11. 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication by Bento C. Leal
- 13 12. I Want This to Work by Elizabeth Earnshaw
- 14 13. The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship by Don Miguel Ruiz
- 15 14. Eight Dates: Essential Conversations For A Lifetime Of Love by John Gottman
1. Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
Mating in Captivity is one of the best relationship books for couples who want to rekindle the excitement of the honey-moon phase . Couples therapist Esther Perel examines the challenges of sustaining desire in a long-term relationship and offers tips on how to spice your sex life no matter how long you’ve been together.
2. Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
3. Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
It helps you get to the emotional root of your relationship and understand the way people form attachments. Inside, you’ll learn how to improve a failing relationship, respond in a healthy way to your partner, and get your emotional connection back.
4. 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
We couldn’t create a list of the best books about love and relationships without including this decade-long NYT bestseller. Chances are you’ve come across Chapman’s theory of this, but what is your primary way to give and receive love, and does this clash with your partner’s?
It will help you understand your and your partner’s love languages and experience deeper levels of intimacy together.
5. Loving Bravely by Alexandra H. Solomon
It centers on the belief that if you want to attract, you’ve got to first become a loving partner to yourself. Do the inner work in this book: Understand your patterns, flaws, and strengths, and learn to love yourself first before trying to love someone else.
6. I Hear You by Michael S. Sorensen
Communication is one of the most important qualities in any successful relationship, whether it’s a romantic one, a friendship, or a working relationship. It will support you in transforming day-to-day conversations by helping you master validation and improve all your relationships exponentially.
7. Love More, Fight Less by Gina Senarighi
It is one of the top books on healthy relationships. It centers on navigating conflict meaningfully and lovingly with your partner because disagreements are inevitable and offer an opportunity to work together. This is a must-read if you struggle with communicating effectively through conflict.
8. Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman
Another gem of a book from Gary Chapman, it is packed with practical wisdom and tips to help you prepare for marriage and create an unbreakable bond that stands the test of time. This book is filled with advice that Chapman himself wishes he had received before tying the knot.
9. All About Love by Bell Hooks
The first volume of a powerful trilogy, It , exposes society’s failure to provide a healthy model for learning to love. The book breaks down the truth about love and inspires us to be more caring and compassionate in all areas of our lives.
10. Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
It uses science to explain why some of us seem to exert no effort in navigating our relationships healthily, while some of us consistently struggle and sometimes wind up in toxic or even abusive relationships. By understanding adult attachment, you’ll learn how to find and sustain a healthy form of love.
11. 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication by Bento C. Leal
It is one of the best books on dating and relationships to read as a couple. This how-to style guide will teach you some essential skills to overcome your communication barriers, manage conflicts, nurture connections, and achieve relationship success.
12. I Want This to Work by Elizabeth Earnshaw
Whether you’re married or unmarried, it shows shows couples how to work with the primary three challenges all couples face: conflict, healing, and connection. With simplified concepts, insights, and exercises, this book is an inclusive, accessible guide to healing relationships and building long-lasting intimacy does not rely on sex.
13. The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship by Don Miguel Ruiz
It explores the fear-based beliefs and assumptions we hold that lead to suffering in our relationships. It also provides guidance on how to heal these emotional wounds and regain freedom in ourselves and our relationships.
14. Eight Dates: Essential Conversations For A Lifetime Of Love by John Gottman
This book offers eight fun, life-changing conversations (or dates) to have with your partner on important topics that usually cause breakdowns in a relationship. This includes trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams.