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6 Reasons You May Be Intimidating to Men
If you’re single and find that men just don’t approach you, you should reflect on the subtle signs you are intimidating to guys.
Do men take you out but never ask for a second date? They could be interested but are too insecure to risk rejection. Here are a few reasons you may be intimidating to men.
1. You’re attractive, but you’re still single.
One question guys ask is, “Why are you still single”? They can’t figure out why a pretty woman doesn’t have a husband or boyfriend.
They may be too scared to ask you out because they’re afraid there’s something wrong with you (high maintenance, too bossy, or hard to get along with). He may act goofy, ask too many questions, or talk excessively. These are signs a guy is intimidated by your looks.
If you are interested in him, be honest and forthright about why you’ve chosen to remain single. If he’s nervous because of your looks, give him hints that you are interested and find him attractive.
2. You have a high-paying job.
A man can be intimidated by a successful woman who earns more than he does. His family may have raised him to believe the man is the primary breadwinner, and he doesn’t know how to feel about dating someone who makes more than they do.
A smart, open-minded guy can get past this and even appreciate your success. But run away from those whose egos can’t handle it.
3. You’re taller than they are.
If you’re a woman who is 5 foot 8 in bare feet and over 6 feet in heels, your height can be a little intimidating to shorter men. The old notion that the man should be taller is outdated.
There is nothing wrong with a woman being taller than a man. If a man is insecure about his height, it may be why he doesn’t approach you. But if you don’t mind the height difference and want to get to know him, let him know.
4. You have high self-esteem.
Some men believe that certain women are out of their league. These guys feel you are unapproachable if you’re an intelligent, confident woman.
They’ll stare at you all day long but don’t have the confidence to come over and strike up a conversation for fear of being rejected. If you’re always with your friends, it takes a very secure man to approach a group of women and start talking.
You may need to send him a few signals that you are approachable and want to talk to him if you’re attracted to him.
5. You speak your mind without holding back.
Some guys may find it off-putting if you’re a woman who is blunt and to the point. Having your own opinion and being upfront about what you want in a relationship is not bad. But consider your presentation and how it may come across.
If a guy is used to women who just smile and agree with whatever they say, that’s a red flag for you. But if you leave no room for his opinion or don’t invite conversation, he’ll feel shut down.
6. You’re too independent.
You mow your lawn, can change a tire and have no problem traveling by yourself. Perhaps you have a well-paying job and can afford to buy whatever you want.
You don’t need anyone to “take care” of you, buy you stuff, or pay for every date.
But maybe your independence comes across as disinterest. This can intimidate men because it makes them feel you don’t need them.
A guy can like an independent woman, but on occasion, they want their woman to need them in an emotionally healthy way. He wants to be your hero now and then.