25 Habits of happy couples in a strong and healthy relationship

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25 Habits of happy couples in a strong and healthy relationship

Hi guys. Today on relationship matters, we’ll be taking a look at 25 habits exhibited by couples in a strong and healthy relationship.

The term “happy couples” should not be mistaken for “perfect couples”. Trust me, perfect couples don’t exist, it’s just a myth.

All we find in a strong and healthy relationship are two imperfect people who learn to enjoy each other’s differences and work together to create something special from their relationship.

Even in movies where they make scenarios look as perfect as possible, you still find couples playing their parts in making things work out.

We’ve literarily watched couples go from “ready to break up” to being “on cloud nine” in a matter of weeks, simply by making subtle, effective changes to their daily habits.

Unsurprisingly, once these couples have gone through these tough times together, their newfound relationship habits become second nature to them, and thus they seem perfect to the outside world.

What are these things couples do to make them seem all perfect? Can we all have a love life similar to happy couples in a strong and healthy relationship? These and similar questions are what we will do justice to in this article.

Without much ado, let’s cut to the chase.

  1. They compromise when need be

Relationships are about compromise. But is relationship totally base on compromise? Find out here. Compromise is simply giving up something in order to meet a place of understanding with your partner.

In other words, you are sacrificing for your partner happiness. When both parties in a relationship understand when and where to compromise, it leaves the couples happy and strengthens the relationship.

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  1. They are selfless

This is not farfetched from the first example. Selfless love focuses on what you can do for your partner rather than what your partner can do for you.

There might not exactly be an equal amount of giving and taking in a happy relationship, but you will see the effort from your partner trying to put you first in any way he/she can.

This is a very common habit peculiar to happy couples in a strong and healthy relationship.

  1. They are spontaneous

Dr Chronister explains,

Spontaneity involves unpredictability and it heightens intensity and excitement in a relationship.

Spontaneity is the opposite of routine and it applies to a relationship too. It might sound silly, but just the simple act of doing something unexpected for your partner can really change things around.

Mind you, let the something unexpected by something good, sweet, romantic etc. Don’t unexpectedly break your partner’s heart. That’s you been spontaneous but far from what we are talking about.

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  1. They buy each other gifts

Speaking of spontaneity, this highlight what we are talking about. It’s not something you do daily, so it’s unexpected and also, it’s a sign that you love your partner.

Love is all about giving, always remember that. The fact that couples always find a way to give to each other no matter how little, shows they are heading in the right direction.

  1. They always celebrate special days

Many will argue that all days are special. No questions about that. However, there are days we tend to celebrate more than the others (especially happy couples).

These days include birthdays, valentine, Christmas, Halloween etc. Going for full celebration on these days have a very strong way of strengthening the relationship.

Remember we mentioned the need to exchange gifts earlier. These are the best times happy couples buy gifts for each other to maintain their strong and healthy relationship.

  1. They agree even after an argument

There is no relationship deficient of arguments. When people have a difference in opinion about a subject matter, they tend to argue. Couples are not exempted.

However, after an argument, happy couples don’t keep resentment. Rather than cause bad blood, each of them draws out the positive from such an argument and allow the sleeping dog to lie.

Don’t for one second think that for you to have a happy relationship, there won’t be any form of argument. Funny enough, when there are no arguments in a relationship, there is usually something wrong.

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  1. They don’t involve third parties

A romantic relationship involves two people. It should always remain that way in the good days as well as the bad days.

Happy couples realize this and always settle their differences internally. This is the reason why they always seem all happy to the outside world.

To keep your relationship strong and healthy, learn to not involve your family and friends in your relationship. It will do your relationship a whole world of good.

  1. They always communicate their feelings

This is something peculiar to any form of happy relationships. Communication is the easiest way to understand how your partner feels.

It makes both party’s express what’s bothering them and each party take note and start treating each other better. No communication, no improvement

  1. They listen to understand and not to reply

Communication will be useless without understanding. One of the habits of happy couples is that when they communicate, they give each other listening ears.

With this, they tend to understand each other better. Happy couple’s communication leads to understanding. However, an unhappy couple’s communication leads to an argument.

Even as you strive to improve communication in your relationship, know that the aim is to understand each other and not to argue.

  1. They make time for each other

It’s not uncommon to see couples who have gotten into a routine of seeing each other as frequently as possible to all of a sudden not have time for each other anymore.

It’s important to always make time for each other if you want a happy relationship. Even if it’s eating dinner together after coming home from work.

  1. They always kiss goodnight rather than go to bed mad

This habit is a cliché but it’s worth it. We are all guilty of arguing once or twice in a relationship before going to bed. This is not a healthy habit if you want a happy and strong relationship.

The important thing to take from this point is not the kiss but the fact that you should never go to bed mad with your partner.

It makes for some terrible sleep. Always kiss goodnight.

  1. They learn each other’s love language

Unsurprisingly, we don’t all love the same. Similarly, we don’t demand the same kind of love from our partner.

Many unhappy couples have different love languages and do not realize it. This can lead to a lot of arguments.

While one party might love when his/her partner does an act of service and spend quality time, the other would prefer words of affirmation.

Knowing what your partner wants and giving it to them is one habit common to happy couples. Emulate it to make your relationship strong and healthy.

  1. They have rituals

This is one secret happy couples keep from unhealthy ones. They usually dedicate a day in the week or some days in the month for special events that most likely turn into a routine.

For example, every Friday night is date nights; every 14th of the month is for visiting the cinemas etc.

This helps to straighten the bond in a relationship and keep both parties happy.

  1. They respect and give each other space

Unarguably, it is nice to spend time with your partner but it is also healthy to spend time with friends and even spend time alone.

Happy couples give each other space and allow each other to hang out with friends and be alone when necessary.

  1. They have each other’s back

Happy couples always have each other back come rain come sun even when they don’t always agree. They don’t take it lightly when someone wants to mess with their partner.

They are loyal to each other and if there are any disagreements, they discuss privately.

  1. They don’t compare their relationship with others

Comparison has a way of weakening the bond in a relationship. Happy couples are aware of these things hence they don’t compare their relationship with anyone.

They realize that no relationship is perfect. Also, you don’t know what is going behind closed doors. So, why compare.

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  1. They check in during the day

Couples usually have the habit of using their workload during the day as an excuse why they don’t check on each other. However, happy couples don’t do this.

Happy couples have the habit of reaching out throughout their workdays. Even if it’s a text message saying “I hope you are having a good day. I love you” Can mean a lot.

  1. They make time for intimacy

Intimacy plays a huge part in the life of most happy couples. I am not talking about intimacy in the bedroom only. It’s good you get intimate with your partner as often as you can.

Show affection, hold hands, kiss daily and make sure you don’t lose that romantic spark. It’s important to practice intimacy daily if you need a healthy and strong relationship.

  1. They set goals together

This is a habit happy couples don’t ignore. They have the habit of setting actionable goals together. They know they want to always work on bettering their future.

Happy couples have a habit of setting financial goals together. At the same time, they don’t let money get in the way of their love for each other.

Learn to always set goals with your partner that you know will better your future together.

  1. They practice self-care as individuals

The first step to having a healthy relationship with someone else is to have a healthy relationship with yourself.

This is something happy couples know. They practice self-care as individuals which end up reflecting in their relationship. Hence, they have a healthy, happy and strong relationship.

  1. They don’t play games with each other’s heads and hearts

Happy couples respect the high level of trust their partner has for them. So, there is no room for playing games with each other heart.

These games include infidelity, spending more thing with someone of the opposite sex other than your partner etc.

  1. They practice the golden rule

In a healthy relationship, you get what you put in. You get nothing less or nothing more. It’s basically garbage in garbage out.

There is no room for selfishness. If you want love, give love. If you want a smile, give a smile. Let go of finding out who’s right or wrong. Be concerned with loving and being loved, caring and being cared for.

  1. They cheer up each other

Happy couples always cheer and appreciate each other. There are the first to celebrate the success of their partner.

This leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So, learn to be happy for your partner, it will go a long way to strengthening your relationship.

  1. They refuse to play the blame game

There is no positive to draw from blames. Take responsibilities for your action. Most importantly, take responsibilities for your relationship – the good things and the bad.

Either you both take equal ownership of the problems you two encounter or the problems will own the both of you.

  1. They tame their anger and practice forgiveness

When you feel anger surging up and you want to yell that vulgar remark on the tip of your tongue, just close your mouth and walk away. Don’t let your anger get the best of you. Give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss the solution.

Also, happy couples have the habit of forgiveness. Making up after an argument is central. A simple and honest “I’m sorry “ is usually the most important step.

We all make mistakes, but the willingness to admit it is a habit common to happy couples. Remember, it doesn’t matter who’s right, it’s what’s right that matters.


In conclusion, this list is not necessarily suggesting that these are the only keys to being a happy couple. However, I just shared light on some of the common habits happy couples exhibit.

It good you know that happy couples are simply two people putting effort to strengthen their relationship to make it a healthy one.

Over to you

What else would you add to the list? Are there any specific habits or actions that have made you and your partner happier as a couple? Leave your comments below and let us know what’s been working for you. Thanks for reading guys.

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